Last week when I picked Jordyn up from school she was in tears. Complete tears. She had gotten a strike on her calendar for arguing with a boy and it tore her apart. Jordyn ALWAYS tries to stand up for what is right and stick up for people that she thinks have been wronged....In this particular situation the boy had taken a marker that wasn't his and Jordyn needed to make it a point to get it back. Her teacher said she tried to calm her down but she couldn't, she was hyperventilating. She had tried to explain to Jordyn that it was ok, that she is a great student but she had to give her a strike even though the boy was wrong, to make it fair because she was arguing too....
but in Jordyns mind. It wasn't ok.....it couldn't be ok.
See Jordyn is a scorpio, scorpios are signs of passion and they are extreme in their emotions. They seem to be in tune with the vibes and often times can pick up the energies of those around them. They are also warriors of truth and justice which explains why she constantly feels the need to fight for whats right, even when the fight is over something as small as a marker.
It took me a while to figure out how to navigate raising a scorpio child, i'm still learning but I have a few tips i've learned that I want to share with you all.
1: THEY ARE EXTREMELY SENSITIVE AND TEACHING EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT IS IMPORTANT.
No matter how calm, cool, and collected they may seem on the surface, they feel emotions deeply and intensely. Their emotions are extreme on both ends of the spectrum, there is rarely a middle ground, it's either all or nothing. Jordyn is either right under me, hugging and kissing and telling me she loves me, or she's isolated in her room giving me the silent treatment. It's important to be patient and teach our little scorpios how to manage these emotions because it is very easy for them to stay in the negative feelings and slip into a dark place.
2: THEY HAVE HIGH LEVELS OF EXPECTATIONS FOR THEMSELVES AND REASSURANCE IS IMPORTANT.
Scorpios tend to be born with naturally high levels of intelligence. So naturally, they have high expectations for themselves. More often than not, they pour their entire beings into whatever it is they are working on and are extremely hard on themselves if they don't get the grade or praise they are expecting. I've found that it is important for me to give constantly give Jordyn the reassurance that everything is ok, that she did her best and that is what is important.
3: THEY ARE VERY INTENSE AND CAN BE VERY SECRETIVE.
Scorpios tend to be introverts and as a result of this, they tend to keep their emotions and personal feelings tightly bound to them. They don't let just anyone in their inner circle or their private world.
I've learned that it is important to teach the benefits of effectively communicating her feelings early on. I've also learned that I have to teach her to consider the feelings of others because not everyone can appreciate the intense nature of the scorpio.
4: STRUCTURE AND DISCIPLINE IS NECESSARY.
Scorpios are very powerful, dominate, and strong willed by nature. They know exactly who they are and what they stand for. Most parents of scorpios don't have enough energy to go toe to toe with them because scorpios rarely back down. I've learned that I have to be firm but fair in the boundaries and disciplines I set on Jordyn. You cannot be too hard or soft on a scorpio child because they pick up on vibes and are extremely intuitive so if they sense a weak parent, they may start to take advantage and become manipulative. If you're too strong, their sense of resentment towards you may grow and let me tell you, nobody holds a grudge quite like a scorpio.....except you know, a Taurus ;)
The point is to find a balance, meet your child in the middle. Don't be a push over but don't rule with an iron fist either. They will test you, so you have to make them understand that YOU are the boss of the house, not them, and stick to what you say. Don't back down.
xo, Jeanice :)